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http://www.autostraddle.com/the-lifespan-of-a-lesbian-heartbreak-130370/

This was pretty... And sad. But somewhat uplifting at the same time.

Awwww...

Jan. 20th, 2009 02:40 am
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"When I was younger, I used to believe that each star in the sky was someones soul mate... and that a falling star meant that one was coming to find their true love. I remember I used to spend countless evenings out under the stars because I thought if I just wished hard enough... mine would finally fall to me.

It's silly... and I know better now. But on nights like this I wonder if somewhere out there someone is wishing for me..."
-DMFA, #965 (if link doesn't work, it's because a new comic isn't out yet. Hit http://www.missmab.com/ instead.)
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Oh, here's an anime series that might be worth buying.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Byōsoku_5_Centimetre

Of quiet love, separation... At least, the graphics and the music's really pretty. Um. Will upload the teaser/trailer tomorrow, maybe, If I remember. 'cause those were pretty. The episode that's been subbed... eh... I dunno. I want to watch it in DVD quality - that would be nice, only 'cause... so pretty.

Thus far, in episode 1, thus far, it's been all? internal dialogue and flashbacks.

Ok, was, for a little be more than half.

:: siiiighs~::
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http://www.theregister.com/2007/02/14/pricey_beta_bugger/
A rather negative article on Vista. To sum it up: It's pretty. Pretty useless.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/02/13/AR2007021301371_pf.html
And on love. And how girls now-and-days go for "Quick flings, or hookups". ::sighs::
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Happy Valentine's day.

May you all eat lots of chocolates, enjoy your current relationship status, and erm... get married to a computer!

I dunno. That was random.
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[livejournal.com profile] 21406 - http://community.livejournal.com/21406/
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Reference to a close-friends'-only post here (on livejournal only).

But yeah, love annoys me.

And I'm sorry.

I hate this pain. Why, damnit, why? It's an issue I don't want to face, but I can't keep running away for ever, I know. But, damnit... why are you so far away.

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In other news,
[livejournal.com profile] porsupah, these pictures may amuse you.
http://www.xanga.com/item.aspx?user=tageyo&tab=weblogs&uid=399277456
"Pancake Bunny, v1.0"
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The Mai Hime fanfic that I might actually follow (if I remember to check back every so often):
http://www.fanfiction.net/s/2313608/1/

Link via Senpai~ =^^=

...
And randomly, that led to two pages on unrequited love:
http://www.physics.ohio-state.edu/~sstoneb/agony/
http://www.joelogon.com/platonic/platonic.html

The first one is good. The second one talks about what to do after your target female turns around and says "I just want to be friends."

Fortunately, I think... I've never been on the receiving end of that statement, although I've said it... once? Although that wasn't really technically that. I don't know. No, maybe I've said more, and differently, in other occasions, although love wasn't 100% apparent...
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Why Men Stop Believing In Love
by Andre Cross

Love has become a four-letter word. It's one of the most overused, under-appreciated, misunderstood words in the English language. Nowadays, the image of love seems more like a 7/11; a convenience store on the road of life, designed to provide satisfactory feelings without too much effort, rather than the classic sentiment associated with fairytales like Cinderella.

Settling for less. What am I talking about? I'm talking about how we've changed the definition of love to an all-encompassing term to describe any relationship we are in, even if it is one void of any deep emotional connection.

The subject really began to intrigue me when a person I recently met confided in me that a relationship he was involved with for six years was little more than a bad habit; an empty shell of what was once a great relationship. When I asked him why he was still with her, all I got was a shrug of the shoulders and a futile attempt at explaining (more like justifying) his decision. She has even cheated on him, and he took her back. Why stay with her? Because it was good enough. Thus began a soul searching journey into the subject of love, and why men in general have given up on finding real love.

When did we stop believing in love? Actually, a better question is when did the word love carry the same connotation as fantasy and fairytale? And when I mean love, I'm talking about real love, the kind of love you'd give up your soul -- and your left arm for. Have we become so shallow and jaded as a society that we instantly dismiss the notion of falling in love as a story from our grandparents' time?

Love and lust. There are plenty of couples that love each other; it's a normal, natural emotion that exists when one spends a considerable amount of time with another. But time makes us love someone; being in love is a whole other story. You can love your sister, your mother, your brother, your friends (though you'll never admit to that one unless you're under the influence), but you can only be in love with a woman that sets your heart of fire Unfortunately, nowadays we easily confuse the concept of love with attraction. Men, pigs by nature as we are (even I, Mr. Sensitive, must admit to falling prey to the curse of lust), tend to think a good time in bed equates love. Actually, let me correct myself -- a good time in bed and remembering her name may be mistaken for love. But deep down, men are as skeptical about love as they are about a phone call claiming a free prize if they reveal their credit card number.

Men often get together and devise a plan of how to try to capture as many females as possible. It's not that we do it on purpose -- actually the Discovery Channel even tells us it's part of our genetic makeup -- but the truth is that men are bitter creatures. Contrary to popular opinion (or any football movie you see), the male ego is as fragile as a Faberge egg.

When did we stop believing? We are not born bitter; we become bitter, more likely after a sour relationship that left us with a bad taste in our mouths. We were all optimists once, believing that we only date women we are in love with, but we quickly came to terms with reality. If the love you had has become a fleeting emotion, it was never really love to begin with.And what happens? We stop believing it ever really existed.

End result? We stay in relationships that can be summed up as good enough, meaning it has enough elements that justify continuing the relationship despite the fact that we don't have a glitter in our eyes when we talk about her, and our heart doesn't skip a beat when we receive a call from her. Basically, we stay in relationships for too long, even though there isn't an iota of passion between us. Are we so afraid of being alone that we would sacrifice something that would obviously make us happy, for a person we merely get along with? How do we know that a certain woman is pulling at our heartstrings?

Passion. Isn't that a word in the dictionary? Doesn't it mean: a powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger? Isn't it something that refers to what Romeo and Juliet once had? How many of us have ever felt it? Not many. Remember, I am talking about passion, not lust.

Passion expresses itself in the weirdest of ways, but it can be summarized like this: if you tremble when you are close to her, then you are feeling the effects of passion (unless you are just an incredibly shy guy). If you get into a fight, say the cruelest things in the world, and end up sharing a kiss that could make the world stop, then passion is there. If your goodbye kisses are but simple pecks on the cheek or lips, devoid of any emotion, then your relationship has no passion. If you can sleep well at night, despite having a major fight with your significant other, then passion is non-existent.

Unfortunately boys, this isn't something we can pick up at the nearest grocery store; it's either there or it's not. And since so few of us have never experienced passion, we don't believe it exists. People who are passionate love hard, hate hard, and have a joy for living others can only envy.All you need is love.I have some good news and some bad news. The good news is that true love does exist; the bad news is that it is as unlikely to occur as seeing Arnold Schwarzenegger and Sylvester Stallone appear in a remake of Thelma & Louise.

The Beatles had a moderately successful career (an understatement if there ever was one) singing about love, as almost every one of their tunes broached the subject and became a Top 10 hit. Did they know something we didn't, or were they referring to it in the same way New Age artists refer to the mythical rising Phoenix? Of course not. The lesson we have to take from this is simple: love is out there, somewhere in this dark, lonely world, but don't bet the farm on finding it. You can't go around looking for love, it just happens the same way you reach puberty: unexpectedly and painfully. Almost everyone who has fallen in love (again, I'm referring to the I'd give up my right kidney kind of love) has said it came out of the blue, having caught them off guard. You can find it today, or you could have missed it yesterday, forever.

Everyone falls in love at least once in their lives; before they become bitter, divorced, and join support groups. Too often, it happens when they are too young to realize its grace and beauty, and before they become suspicious of anything too good to be true.

Everyone's a critic. Am I being too cynical? Yes, I am, but I have reason to be. Just ask those closest to you how many of them are deeply in love, and you'll be surprised by the answer. We've become an almost loveless, sex crazed society with no concern for any significant amount of emotional investment or attachment -- but there is hope.

The hope I have (and yes this is a stretch), is that the men and women in this world stop being trapped in loveless, lifeless relationships. That they refuse to engage in any kind of relationship in which they do not wish to spend every living, breathing moment next to the person they are passionate about. Right. What I said has about as much chance of happening as squirrels landing on the moon. At least do me this favor. If you are in a relationship that doesn't bring you happiness, be men and end it. Yes, I know the steady dose of sex is hard to give up, but have some self-respect boys. At least stop fooling the other person.

For those lucky enough to feel it, put a sign on your shirt, so the rest of us can point at you and say, "If he can do it, I can too." And if you want the ultimate test of whether you are in love or not, just remember:

Real love will devastate you.
If love does not shatter you,
You do not know love.

[ source | Via Ting, islandsunshine@xanga.com ]

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So, in the end, perhaps I haven't known love. How sad? I don't know anymore. Yeah, I'm afraid of something too serious. At least for right now, since... I don't know. I don't know. I don't...

someday, I'm going to wake up from my not really caring/avoidance/running away from it, and discover that it's too late to find love

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